You can measure the happiness of a marriage
by the number of scars that each partner carries
on their tongues,
earned from years of biting back angry words.
August 2011 iphoto
"Stay in there. Finish the fight. I'm sure during long operations, surgeons would like to quit, go home, and sleep for eight hours. But they can't. The open wound needs to be cleaned out and sewn up to heal. So do arguments. Leaving them open is inviting gangrene into the relationship. You can take a 10-minute breather, but get back to business and sew it up.
"When I'm in the red-hot zone, I ask myself, How important will this be to me three months from now? Or if I found out I had an incurable disease? Chances are that the argument is not that important. Don't go to bed angry (see Ephesians 4:26). Besides, if you go to bed with unresolved anger, you'll be tossing and turning all night. Get up and get over it.
"Thanks to our fight strategy, our arguments have been shorter, and we both end up 'winning' with a renewed sense of love and commitment to each other. That's something worth fighting for."
~ an old Christian Reader